I just came to this realization. I spent months trying to figure out HOW to stop women I come across, without making them reject me just because they’re busily going somewhere else. I tried and tried, but everything failed catastrophically. I tried every cheesy pick up line (pick-up lines never work), every opener I could think of, and STILL nothing. WHAT DID I HAVE TO DO?!

I spent months hammering my brains for some type of idea, some type of breakthrough, ANYTHING. Yet nothing did I seem to squeeze out. Then after chatting with one of my oldest friends, it hit me. If they’re busily going somewhere else, then why not (and I can’t believe I didn’t think of this before) go with them. That’s right, literally go with the flow. It’s all about Taichi or Aikido, use the opponents own weight and force to bring him down. Now, don’t go beating up those girls. Instead, when you approach, start walking with them or her at the same time you open her up. Now, I’ve only successfully done this a couple of times so I’ll keep experimenting and keep you posted.

Well, if you watch the same shows I watch, you’ll be familiar with this one. There’s a Friends episode where super hot Rachel is sitting in Central Perk and she suddenly realizes that her life is going nowhere, and that her job as a waitress is not helping either. Her two good friends Chandler and Joey motivate her by telling her that all she needs is “The Fear”.

They tell her that what she need is to quit her job so that the fear of starving to death caused by the lack of a job will motivate her to get a job that she truly wants. She then quits her job, and within a week she gets the job that she desires most.

It works pretty much the same in real life. I’m not saying to senselessly quit you job. It’s just that if there’s something that you want, you should pursue it, and take steps towards attaining it. Be it a new job, the girl of your dreams, a better sex life. Get rid of what gets in you way, and when the fear hits you, use it as a catalyst to become fearless and achieve your goals. Be fearless.

Are awkward silences really that awkward? Kinda makes you think doesn’t it. I guess it all depends on what’s going on in each individuals head. If you’re nervous and afraid of the awkward silence then you will miss out on the opportunity to really connect with the person your interacting with. I would say that it’s sometimes best to shut the hell up and force a period of silence.

This basically is due to the fact that human communication doesn’t only occur at a linguistic level. There’s body language. Body language should be familiar to you. It’s when, without words, you communicate something by portraying it with your body. Good posture, a smile, staring away from someone, frowning, an upside-down smile, all communicate different things.

You’re eyes are especially powerful in this sense. If fact, I dare say that your eyes alone can really talk a whole other language all by their itty bitty selves. Gazing at someones eyes directly communicates whatever it is that you are feeling at the moment. Try it. You will see that this holds true 100% of the time.

Action language is the power to communicate something through your actions. Taking the girl of your dreams on a date clearly communicates your intention to get to know her better. Giving someone a gift tells him/her that you care, or in the case that you screwed up royally, that you’re sorry. Simply writing a note that says “I love you.” or “let’s have fun.”, tells your friend, family member, or significant other something very direct in an indirect fashion.

So the next time you can’t think of something you can say, and you’re confronted with an awkward silence, instead of feeling nervous and, well, awkward, think of something you can do with your body, with your eyes, or something you can act upon.

The thing with one night stands is that there are two types of one night wonders. The one that truly wants to have meaningless sex with you and the never make contact with you after it occurs. And the one that will give it to you in the hopes that you fall in love with her and pursuit her romantically.

This not to mention all the other risks involved; disease, unwanted pregnancy, depression caused by the lack of stability, the inability to make a commitment due to constant one-nighters… When you think about the temporary bliss you will experience and the satisfaction to come, it can be addictive, but is it really worth it? When you put the pros and cons together, which is the greater good?

Work is a hassle all on it’s own, and having a cruddy boss doesn’t help. Listen, I now what it’s having a “pain in the ass boss”, having one myself. He’s unfair with you , and never treats like you deserve to be treated. You’re a GREAT employee and he never seems to notice or give. But these are quite possibly the wisest words you’ll ever read with regards to your boss. Never fight with your boss even though you hate him. That is, unless you want to get fired.

If you feel he’s doing something unfair don’t fight! I’m not saying to bottle up all the “happy” feelings. Instead, take a deep breath, count to ten to calm the anger, and negotiate. That’s right, NEGOTIATE. What do you want? What is it that’s bothering you and why? Think it through and then communicate. Do it sincerely and from the heart. This will break the ice and likely change your situation for the better.

Among the things you should never do to your friends is stop seeing them just because you found another group of people you like hanging out with. Good friends are hard to find, so taking care of the ones you have is of absolute essence to maintaining a healthy human psyche. Be sure to cherish your friendships. Otherwise, you’ll find that you have no friends at all.

Stress is not good for you. You start getting mad easily, you start looking at people the wrong way, you get into unnecessary quarrels, and you get a few nervous twitches along the way. For centuries man has had an urge to solve his stress problems, and for centuries man has had an excellent tool to get rid of stress right in front of his nose. MUSIC!

Music is a great stress reliever. It’s the only human art form that can truly touch your soul and alter your emotional status. And the best thing is that it’s available to anyone, anywhere, and anyhow.

I, for example, love rock. Anything with a bad ass guitar and a rocker voice really turns me on. So what do I do? The minute I get home, I crank up the volume and scream my head off to one of the Red Hot Chilli Peppers best songs. My family wants to kick me out of the house afterwards, but who cares.

So find a genre of your liking and turn that volume nod 360 degrees to the right. You’ll enjoy that.

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, in his book titled “The Little Prince”, states, “Love is not looking at each other, it is looking together in the same direction.” In other words, love is teamwork.

The over-rated “can’t-live-with-out-the-other” definition of love is untrue and very harmful. TV, movies, and the other forms of media have brainwashed us  into thinking that this is what we should aim for in life, that is, besides making lots of doe. A common way of thinking is, “With love, nothing else matters”. WRONG! Love isn’t omnipotent. It certainly doesn’t overrule every other aspect of life.

But let’s get to defining love. True love occurs when two people, of similar interests and values (values being the most important) are united by a common goal. The creation of a happy prosperous family is a common goal, but there are plenty of others.

Lovers also tend to confuse sexual attraction with true love. Do not make this mistake. One way to avoid this is by mentally taking away you girl’s beauty, her youth, her money, her fame, and every other superficial quality, until all that’s left is an old and physically ugly person. Then ask yourself The Four Questions:

1. Are you and your girl bonded by a common goal? It has to be a significant goal, now.
2. After you take away every superficial quality from your girl, do you still want to share your life with her?
3. Does you relationship with this person motivate your strengths and make you acquire new strengths? Because, if it motivates you weaknesses and vice versa, you’re on the wrong track.
4. Does this relationship harmonize with the original life goals that you had before the relationship? If it derails you from your dreams and expectations in life, you’re on the wrong track.

If and ONLY if all four answers are yes, are you in love with your girl, and therefore ready to get married.

I think Valentine’s day is over-rated, just like Christmas. Everyone goes nuts about it, and they go off spending all their money to buy something for their special someone just to show them they love them. Now, that’s OK, but shouldn’t that be something you show everyday?

Spontaneity is MUCH more power. Don’t wait for an excuse like an international holiday or her birthday to buy her 101 roses. Do it just because. That’ll be refreshing to her, and I bet it’ll get you laid.

Imagine you’re stranded in the desert. You’re thirsty, dry, hot, and vultures are circling your head. Just when you think you’ll die catastrophically out of dehydration, and have your eyes plucked out by you ugly feathered friends, you find an abandoned bottle making factory. IN THE MIDDLE OF THE DESERT! WHAT ARE THE ODDS!? In this factory you find the rusty lever to your right. You examine it. You grab to make sure it’s real and not some hallucination, and in fact, it’s real. You take a closer look and you find that it’s connected to a pipe. You also notice that it has moss growing near the base. This could only mean one thing. WAAATER! You grab it with all you might and heave. But it doesn’t budge. Your long journey through this barren wasteland has weakened your body, but not your soul. You give it another try, but this time you focus all your will power in that single motion. You grab the lever, and give it your all. The lever refuses to move, but you’re stronger than that. You shift your position, spread your feet so as to cover more ground and have more force. Then, you try again, and you will keep on trying until you accomplish your objective because your life depends on it. This time the lever starts moving, but barely a few millimeters. You break into a cold sweat, and every inch of your body is shaking. You know it’s hard and you feel like giving up, but you’ve gotten this far, so why stop now!? The will to split that son-of-a-gun lever DRIVES you. It’s your engine. FINALLY, the lever SNAPS with loud clanck, and PRESTO! The lever is switched on, and water is flowing like Niagara Falls. YOUR SAVED!

When faced with a problem that doesn’t budge, we tend to simply give up and stop trying. Fighting the chance to yield is quite the pain in the neck. While this is acceptable since we’re human, PERSISTENCE is key. Could the rusty lever switch position? With enough will power, I believe so. Life is our rusty lever, and our will power is like the oil that’ll loosen those bolts. Defeat all your problems. FIGHT, MAN, FIGHT!