Getting a phone number from a guy is way easier. The pressure is not there. I mean you don’t wanna hump him so you don’t get unnecessarily nervous. However, all of the other rules of male-female attraction still apply. You’re still the flame, not the moth, but just not as strictly as you would be with a girl.

See guys are a lot more simple. If a man sees something he likes, he goes for it, takes it for his own, and asks questions later. If a girl sees something she likes, she first examines it from a distance. Then, IF she likes what she sees, she smiles and comes closer, just close enough to get a better look at what can possibly be hers. Then after several minutes of close scrutiny, and after she’s decided that the object posses all or most of the qualities she’s looking for she picks it up. She analyzes every nuke and cranny, and thinks to herself “It’s colorful, it’s pretty, not too big, not too small, it fits me just right.” Finally, she takes it for her own.

See the difference? My point is, all you have to do is get to know the dude a little, create one or two connections, and ask for his number. “Hey, we should go out and play pool sometime, what’s your number?” And presto, MUCH easier. Although, when you put it like that, getting a number from a girl should be just as easy, I’ll experiment and get back to you on that.

I was chatting with my dad the other day. He’s a good man. I often feel like his clone. We look the same, we act the same, we walk the same, we’re even as reserved as each other. It’s pretty cool. My similarity to him often makes me seek his counsel.

There where certain situations at work that I was not happy with. To be specific, my boss was giving me a hard time because I was making too many mistakes. This was due to the fact that we where missing personnel, so I was doing twice the work. This made me want to quit, because it just wasn’t fair. So I talked to father.

He said, “Always try NOT to quit your job. It’s hard to get one you know. If you feel you want to quit ask this question before doing it, ‘Is it something that I have to improve on my part?’ If the answer is yes, then don’t quit.” This got me thinking, and I concluded that I COULD improve my performance. So I did, and all was well.

Wise words from Dad.

You’ve all seen this happen. It’s pitch black because the sun has already set, and for some reason or another you decide to light a candle. You hardly spend a few seconds in the porch when you notice a couple of moths circling the flame of the candle. They all seem excited for some reason, while the flame pays no attention, and, in fact, burns some of the moths; sad, but true.

Now, in order to have game, you MUST be the flame, not the moth. In most cases, guys are the moths, and, more often than not, they get burned because of it. Unfortunately, we get so excited when we see a perfect 10, that we forget what’s important, and we loose our heads. We then proceed to start acting, well, stupidly. Remember. Women are humans too.

You’ll all agree with me that whenever you see a HOT BABE, the first thing that comes to mind is “She’s out of my league” or “I have no chance”. And if your actually ignore those thoughts and move past them, thoughts like “I hope she likes me” or “What can I do to impress her?” come to mind. WRONG! Get those looser thoughts out of your head! Seriously!

In the above scenario, the HOT BABE is the flame, and guess what… You’re about the get burned. Instead, change your mental scheme. Switch places. Imagine. What would you do if YOU where the hot babe? I’m not saying act like a girl. The rules of nature still apply: male approaches female. Don’t expect it to be different. What I’m saying is YOU should qualify HER, instead of her qualifying you. YOU should give HER a chance to prove she’s in you’re league, and naturally assume you’re in hers. What’s more, realize that just because she’s beautiful, it doesn’t mean she’s your type. She’s bound to have something that annoys you (lack of confidence, bitchiness, bossiness). So the next time you approach a girl, have these thoughts in mind.

And remember, be the flame, not the moth.