Mar 12 2008
GET LOST!
This is an interesting little tool I came across when trying to figure out how exactly to make people want to be with you, or at least be happy to see you. It’s to literally GET LOST!
That’s the power of unavailability my friend. When people don’t see you, they start wondering where you are, and from there, they start missing you. You go from, they see you everyday, to, not so much. Notice I didn’t say to stop visiting entirely, just to keep it to a bare minimum. Visit only when you feel that if you don’t, the relationship will be inclined towards becoming extinct. That is, visit BEFORE this point.
And if you’re going through Relationship Detox, and you just don’t want to see that person, you’ll be surprised at, well, the surprises that unavailability will throw at you.
Whatever happens, just remember to Enjoy the Ride.
Be carefull with that attitude…
u know… some people out there really get hurt, but that`s their problem in fact…
others don`t mind if someone “gets lost”… they just simply assume you don`t want to be with them, and therefore the result is just what you didn`t expect…
but as you say, you have to enjoy the ride… people that want to be with you will get in contact somehow…
Yeah that’s the idea. I’m not saying to do this all the time. It’s just a method you use to see who genuinely wants to be with you. I someone wants to “will get in contact somehow…”
I also don’t mean for you to cut ALL contact. Just do it more sparingly. A little unavailability never hurt anyone.