There I go minding my own business. I cool, I’m chillin’, talking PEACEFULLY with my girl, when all of a sudden, my girl’s face starts turning red and she starts yelling at me with no apparent reason. And I’m like, “What in the name did I do to you!? Get of my back!” And I left her in her tantrum.

Than I talked to mom. I asked her for a logical explanation for what had just happened. She told me it had nothing to do with me. She told me it was PMS. Now, I had heard of it before, but it just didn’t occur to me at the time, but I was enlightened by this small peace of info.

I did some research which only managed to make me confused, but this is what I got out of it. Basically, what I understood is that the menstrual cycle last 28 days, 14 out of which, women are ovulating. The first 7 days out of those 14 she will have HIGH hormones, and the other 7 days she will have LOW hormones.

Now, as a man, I understand that we think in numbers. So let me translate that for you. The month has 30 days. 14 out of those days she will be a pain in the neck. That means that 46.6% of the time she will be moody.

So what you have to do is understand that this is a part of the female personality. So don’t get mad. Remember if it weren’t for PMS we wouldn’t be her right now. So enjoy the ride.

This is something that took me some time to take into action since the opportunity hadn’t presented itself to me. It’s a disintoxication program I developed, and I’ve been testing out for the past week or so. Let me tell you, it works like a charm.

Basically, when you’ve taken enough BS from a girl you like (which is not something you should be doing, but it happens to the best of us), and she, logically, doesn’t respond because of you wussy attitude. It’s time for relationship detox.

Basically stop seeing, calling, or anything to her. Make, and this is ABSOLUTELY OF THE ESSENCE here, NO effort whatsoever to contact her in anyway. Let me repeat that. Make no effort whatsoever to contact her in ANYWAY. This will result in two possible outcomes, both good ones.

One, she will start missing you and, therefore, start making an effort to contact YOU. In this case, it all depends on what you feel and want, if you want this girl only give her one chance, and maintain your hard-to-get attitude, but this time in a more flirtsy manner (simply smiling at her when she sees you goes a long way). However, if she screws up again, it’s time for another more permanent detox session. Which brings me the the second result.

Second, she makes no effort to contact you or she’s screwed up a second time. Well, then the answer is easy, DETOX IS JUSTIFIED. Move on my friend, there are plenty of fish in the sea, so jump out of that fish bowl.

I speak the truth my friends. Men are logical. We take action based on an analysis we make of the situation in front of us. Women are emotional. THEY take action based on the emotions they feel. They care more about how they feel than how they think. They’re Much more impulsive then us men. I would say that they speak there on Venusian language and us guys, not knowing what the hell they are talking about (or feeling for that matter), stumble and end up chasing our own tails.

So when you’re interacting with the honeys, stop and feel (not think) . Remember, SHE FEELS WHAT YOU FEEL. Think of yourself as a mirror for her to look at. You don’t want her to look sweaty and shaking all over do you? So instead of OVER-THINKING what to say next and becoming nervous, take it easy. Focus on FEELING comfortable with yourself and with her, and this will get her feeling the same way. And in the end that’s all that matters.

This was a rather obvious realization, but most of us, including myself have a hard time following it or even realizing it. I had to get it knocked into my head by a very good friend of mine. Basically he told me forget about all my issues. He told me to stop and clear my head, to think about what I wanted, and forget about the rest. He told me to GO WITH FLOW. He told me to ENJOY THE RIDE.

No matter what happens ENJOY THE RIDE. If a girl responds to you, it’s cool. If she doesn’t, it’s cool (life makes up for it). If you get that job promotion, it’s cool. If you don’t, it’s cool (keep working at it, you’ll get it). If your mom scolds you, it’s cool (well, maybe not so cool, but you’ll get over it, she’s your mom).

My point, well, my friend’s point is that you shouldn’t get caught up thinking about things that have already come to pass. Just take what’s good for you, leave what’s not, and move on. Flow… Enjoy…

I just came to this realization. I spent months trying to figure out HOW to stop women I come across, without making them reject me just because they’re busily going somewhere else. I tried and tried, but everything failed catastrophically. I tried every cheesy pick up line (pick-up lines never work), every opener I could think of, and STILL nothing. WHAT DID I HAVE TO DO?!

I spent months hammering my brains for some type of idea, some type of breakthrough, ANYTHING. Yet nothing did I seem to squeeze out. Then after chatting with one of my oldest friends, it hit me. If they’re busily going somewhere else, then why not (and I can’t believe I didn’t think of this before) go with them. That’s right, literally go with the flow. It’s all about Taichi or Aikido, use the opponents own weight and force to bring him down. Now, don’t go beating up those girls. Instead, when you approach, start walking with them or her at the same time you open her up. Now, I’ve only successfully done this a couple of times so I’ll keep experimenting and keep you posted.

Well, if you watch the same shows I watch, you’ll be familiar with this one. There’s a Friends episode where super hot Rachel is sitting in Central Perk and she suddenly realizes that her life is going nowhere, and that her job as a waitress is not helping either. Her two good friends Chandler and Joey motivate her by telling her that all she needs is “The Fear”.

They tell her that what she need is to quit her job so that the fear of starving to death caused by the lack of a job will motivate her to get a job that she truly wants. She then quits her job, and within a week she gets the job that she desires most.

It works pretty much the same in real life. I’m not saying to senselessly quit you job. It’s just that if there’s something that you want, you should pursue it, and take steps towards attaining it. Be it a new job, the girl of your dreams, a better sex life. Get rid of what gets in you way, and when the fear hits you, use it as a catalyst to become fearless and achieve your goals. Be fearless.

Are awkward silences really that awkward? Kinda makes you think doesn’t it. I guess it all depends on what’s going on in each individuals head. If you’re nervous and afraid of the awkward silence then you will miss out on the opportunity to really connect with the person your interacting with. I would say that it’s sometimes best to shut the hell up and force a period of silence.

This basically is due to the fact that human communication doesn’t only occur at a linguistic level. There’s body language. Body language should be familiar to you. It’s when, without words, you communicate something by portraying it with your body. Good posture, a smile, staring away from someone, frowning, an upside-down smile, all communicate different things.

You’re eyes are especially powerful in this sense. If fact, I dare say that your eyes alone can really talk a whole other language all by their itty bitty selves. Gazing at someones eyes directly communicates whatever it is that you are feeling at the moment. Try it. You will see that this holds true 100% of the time.

Action language is the power to communicate something through your actions. Taking the girl of your dreams on a date clearly communicates your intention to get to know her better. Giving someone a gift tells him/her that you care, or in the case that you screwed up royally, that you’re sorry. Simply writing a note that says “I love you.” or “let’s have fun.”, tells your friend, family member, or significant other something very direct in an indirect fashion.

So the next time you can’t think of something you can say, and you’re confronted with an awkward silence, instead of feeling nervous and, well, awkward, think of something you can do with your body, with your eyes, or something you can act upon.

The thing with one night stands is that there are two types of one night wonders. The one that truly wants to have meaningless sex with you and the never make contact with you after it occurs. And the one that will give it to you in the hopes that you fall in love with her and pursuit her romantically.

This not to mention all the other risks involved; disease, unwanted pregnancy, depression caused by the lack of stability, the inability to make a commitment due to constant one-nighters… When you think about the temporary bliss you will experience and the satisfaction to come, it can be addictive, but is it really worth it? When you put the pros and cons together, which is the greater good?

Work is a hassle all on it’s own, and having a cruddy boss doesn’t help. Listen, I now what it’s having a “pain in the ass boss”, having one myself. He’s unfair with you , and never treats like you deserve to be treated. You’re a GREAT employee and he never seems to notice or give. But these are quite possibly the wisest words you’ll ever read with regards to your boss. Never fight with your boss even though you hate him. That is, unless you want to get fired.

If you feel he’s doing something unfair don’t fight! I’m not saying to bottle up all the “happy” feelings. Instead, take a deep breath, count to ten to calm the anger, and negotiate. That’s right, NEGOTIATE. What do you want? What is it that’s bothering you and why? Think it through and then communicate. Do it sincerely and from the heart. This will break the ice and likely change your situation for the better.

Among the things you should never do to your friends is stop seeing them just because you found another group of people you like hanging out with. Good friends are hard to find, so taking care of the ones you have is of absolute essence to maintaining a healthy human psyche. Be sure to cherish your friendships. Otherwise, you’ll find that you have no friends at all.