Well, this has been THE most complicated question I’ve had to answer for myself in the last year. How can you tell if a girl wants you as a friend or wants to be your girlfriend? It’s a good question my friend. Allow me to enlighten you.

When she wants to be your friend, one sure way of knowing it, is that she will tell you about her triumphs and defeats in love and war. She will in essence treat you like a confidante, and let you in on all of her dirty little secrets.

If she wants to be your girlfriend she will adopt a more secretive, more flirtsy sort of attitude towards you. Notice the play on words here. Flirtsy is the key word. If she’s just plain secretive and doesn’t let you in on anything, then she just plain doesn’t want anything to do with you, so move on.

Even married people were once strangers. Therefore, without patience and the effort to understand one another, things are likely not to go well. We need patience in order to become happy.
There are many who dream about experiencing happiness without the patience. But that is a dream. And a dream is just that–a dream, a fairy tale. It is to wish for a childish, easy life. This illusion breaks up many marriages. The pursuit of such happiness can only make one miserable.
It is important to make the effort to calmly construct something together. From there, real love develops. Real marriage is when you have been married for twenty-five years and feel an even deeper love than you did when you first met. Love deepens. Love that does not is merely on the level of simple likes and dislikes.

When it comes to getting the date it all comes down to what you know about the honey you’re seducing and how you execute your plan. You DO have a plan don’t you?!

If you don’t, then you should! Seriously, plan, plan, and plan. Listen, getting the number is the easy part. Getting the date is truly a feat worth applauding. And having fun in the date is like the culmination of all our long and hard labor. So, here’s what you have to do to plan and get the date successfully.

1. Get the number. Once you get the number don’t bother messaging. IT NEVER WORKS! Have the balls to call her dude.
2. Establish contact. Ok, here’s the tricky part. So pay attention. First of all, your interactions with girls are meant to be of a light, fun, and cheerful character. Not all girls are available. Some of the unavailable chicks will give out their numbers. I’m guessing it’s because they what to spice up there lives a bit with another fling or another short term boy toy (this takes skill to pull of, so if you’re starting out, don’t be surprised if it doesn’t work out). So don’t you allow yourself to get depressed. Another point to be made, is that if you followed my advice and you got multiple numbers instead of just one, you will have multiple options. So to keep it light, fun, and cheerful, if the first one doesn’t respond, don’t let the negative feelings from the first rejection spill over to the your next option. Remember, what you feel she feels. So allow a buffer zone of at least half a day to digest your first rejection, and move on to your next target only when your in a good mood.
3. Chat your ass of. Your first few calls are meant to be recon missions. You have to find out as much as you can about your target. What are her likes and dislikes, where does she like to hang out, is she compatible with your lifestyle. This are all things you should be getting out of her. Now remember light, fun, and cheerful. You don’t want it to seem like an interrogation. Just keep it casual, ask questions naturally as the conversation goes along.
4. Plan it out. Once you know enough about her, plan it out according to here likes and dislikes, and mixing it up with what YOU like. THIS STEP IS KEY! Planning is of the essence. You have to be able to answer all questions she asks you. “Where are we going?”, “What are we doing when we get there?”, “How are we getting there?”, “How am I going to get back home?”, “Are you picking me up?”, “Should we meet there? (this one’s the best option)”, etc. Be prepared.
5. Call her up and propose the date. Don’t mention that it’s a date, just ask her if she wants to come with you. Since you’ve planned it all out, any questions she might ask should be no sweat.
6. Go out and have fun. Remember, light, fun, and cheerful. Keep it cool. Go with the flow. Enjoy the ride. Stick to the plan, but nothing goes as planned ever, so just try to be like water and improvise.

In Japan, the mountain potatoes known as taros are rough and dirty when harvested, but when they are placed in a basin of running water together and rolled against each other, the skin peels away, leaving the potatoes shining clean and ready for cooking. Similarly, the only way for us to hone and polish our character is through our interactions with others.

Hey don’t get all down if a date didn’t go well. I know this is a cliché but, Thomas Edison made 1500 sorry attempts at making a device that produces light. He succeeded.

He learned from every single one of his attempts. Remember, learning to pick-up the honeys is just like learning to play an instrument or sport. Practice makes perfect. You’re going to bore, distress, anger, anguish, displease, and turn-off lots and lots of girls. But guess what? A date’s a date. As long as you get THE DATE, and you obviously go assist to it, you will gain lots of experience and therefore improve your game.

It’s a win-win situation.

This is an interesting little tool I came across when trying to figure out how exactly to make people want to be with you, or at least be happy to see you. It’s to literally GET LOST!

That’s the power of unavailability my friend. When people don’t see you, they start wondering where you are, and from there, they start missing you. You go from, they see you everyday, to, not so much. Notice I didn’t say to stop visiting entirely, just to keep it to a bare minimum. Visit only when you feel that if you don’t, the relationship will be inclined towards becoming extinct. That is, visit BEFORE this point.

And if you’re going through Relationship Detox, and you just don’t want to see that person, you’ll be surprised at, well, the surprises that unavailability will throw at you.

Whatever happens, just remember to Enjoy the Ride.

There I go minding my own business. I cool, I’m chillin’, talking PEACEFULLY with my girl, when all of a sudden, my girl’s face starts turning red and she starts yelling at me with no apparent reason. And I’m like, “What in the name did I do to you!? Get of my back!” And I left her in her tantrum.

Than I talked to mom. I asked her for a logical explanation for what had just happened. She told me it had nothing to do with me. She told me it was PMS. Now, I had heard of it before, but it just didn’t occur to me at the time, but I was enlightened by this small peace of info.

I did some research which only managed to make me confused, but this is what I got out of it. Basically, what I understood is that the menstrual cycle last 28 days, 14 out of which, women are ovulating. The first 7 days out of those 14 she will have HIGH hormones, and the other 7 days she will have LOW hormones.

Now, as a man, I understand that we think in numbers. So let me translate that for you. The month has 30 days. 14 out of those days she will be a pain in the neck. That means that 46.6% of the time she will be moody.

So what you have to do is understand that this is a part of the female personality. So don’t get mad. Remember if it weren’t for PMS we wouldn’t be her right now. So enjoy the ride.

This is something that took me some time to take into action since the opportunity hadn’t presented itself to me. It’s a disintoxication program I developed, and I’ve been testing out for the past week or so. Let me tell you, it works like a charm.

Basically, when you’ve taken enough BS from a girl you like (which is not something you should be doing, but it happens to the best of us), and she, logically, doesn’t respond because of you wussy attitude. It’s time for relationship detox.

Basically stop seeing, calling, or anything to her. Make, and this is ABSOLUTELY OF THE ESSENCE here, NO effort whatsoever to contact her in anyway. Let me repeat that. Make no effort whatsoever to contact her in ANYWAY. This will result in two possible outcomes, both good ones.

One, she will start missing you and, therefore, start making an effort to contact YOU. In this case, it all depends on what you feel and want, if you want this girl only give her one chance, and maintain your hard-to-get attitude, but this time in a more flirtsy manner (simply smiling at her when she sees you goes a long way). However, if she screws up again, it’s time for another more permanent detox session. Which brings me the the second result.

Second, she makes no effort to contact you or she’s screwed up a second time. Well, then the answer is easy, DETOX IS JUSTIFIED. Move on my friend, there are plenty of fish in the sea, so jump out of that fish bowl.

I speak the truth my friends. Men are logical. We take action based on an analysis we make of the situation in front of us. Women are emotional. THEY take action based on the emotions they feel. They care more about how they feel than how they think. They’re Much more impulsive then us men. I would say that they speak there on Venusian language and us guys, not knowing what the hell they are talking about (or feeling for that matter), stumble and end up chasing our own tails.

So when you’re interacting with the honeys, stop and feel (not think) . Remember, SHE FEELS WHAT YOU FEEL. Think of yourself as a mirror for her to look at. You don’t want her to look sweaty and shaking all over do you? So instead of OVER-THINKING what to say next and becoming nervous, take it easy. Focus on FEELING comfortable with yourself and with her, and this will get her feeling the same way. And in the end that’s all that matters.

I just came to this realization. I spent months trying to figure out HOW to stop women I come across, without making them reject me just because they’re busily going somewhere else. I tried and tried, but everything failed catastrophically. I tried every cheesy pick up line (pick-up lines never work), every opener I could think of, and STILL nothing. WHAT DID I HAVE TO DO?!

I spent months hammering my brains for some type of idea, some type of breakthrough, ANYTHING. Yet nothing did I seem to squeeze out. Then after chatting with one of my oldest friends, it hit me. If they’re busily going somewhere else, then why not (and I can’t believe I didn’t think of this before) go with them. That’s right, literally go with the flow. It’s all about Taichi or Aikido, use the opponents own weight and force to bring him down. Now, don’t go beating up those girls. Instead, when you approach, start walking with them or her at the same time you open her up. Now, I’ve only successfully done this a couple of times so I’ll keep experimenting and keep you posted.