Even married people were once strangers. Therefore, without patience and the effort to understand one another, things are likely not to go well. We need patience in order to become happy.
There are many who dream about experiencing happiness without the patience. But that is a dream. And a dream is just that–a dream, a fairy tale. It is to wish for a childish, easy life. This illusion breaks up many marriages. The pursuit of such happiness can only make one miserable.
It is important to make the effort to calmly construct something together. From there, real love develops. Real marriage is when you have been married for twenty-five years and feel an even deeper love than you did when you first met. Love deepens. Love that does not is merely on the level of simple likes and dislikes.

In Japan, the mountain potatoes known as taros are rough and dirty when harvested, but when they are placed in a basin of running water together and rolled against each other, the skin peels away, leaving the potatoes shining clean and ready for cooking. Similarly, the only way for us to hone and polish our character is through our interactions with others.

This is an interesting little tool I came across when trying to figure out how exactly to make people want to be with you, or at least be happy to see you. It’s to literally GET LOST!

That’s the power of unavailability my friend. When people don’t see you, they start wondering where you are, and from there, they start missing you. You go from, they see you everyday, to, not so much. Notice I didn’t say to stop visiting entirely, just to keep it to a bare minimum. Visit only when you feel that if you don’t, the relationship will be inclined towards becoming extinct. That is, visit BEFORE this point.

And if you’re going through Relationship Detox, and you just don’t want to see that person, you’ll be surprised at, well, the surprises that unavailability will throw at you.

Whatever happens, just remember to Enjoy the Ride.

There I go minding my own business. I cool, I’m chillin’, talking PEACEFULLY with my girl, when all of a sudden, my girl’s face starts turning red and she starts yelling at me with no apparent reason. And I’m like, “What in the name did I do to you!? Get of my back!” And I left her in her tantrum.

Than I talked to mom. I asked her for a logical explanation for what had just happened. She told me it had nothing to do with me. She told me it was PMS. Now, I had heard of it before, but it just didn’t occur to me at the time, but I was enlightened by this small peace of info.

I did some research which only managed to make me confused, but this is what I got out of it. Basically, what I understood is that the menstrual cycle last 28 days, 14 out of which, women are ovulating. The first 7 days out of those 14 she will have HIGH hormones, and the other 7 days she will have LOW hormones.

Now, as a man, I understand that we think in numbers. So let me translate that for you. The month has 30 days. 14 out of those days she will be a pain in the neck. That means that 46.6% of the time she will be moody.

So what you have to do is understand that this is a part of the female personality. So don’t get mad. Remember if it weren’t for PMS we wouldn’t be her right now. So enjoy the ride.

This is something that took me some time to take into action since the opportunity hadn’t presented itself to me. It’s a disintoxication program I developed, and I’ve been testing out for the past week or so. Let me tell you, it works like a charm.

Basically, when you’ve taken enough BS from a girl you like (which is not something you should be doing, but it happens to the best of us), and she, logically, doesn’t respond because of you wussy attitude. It’s time for relationship detox.

Basically stop seeing, calling, or anything to her. Make, and this is ABSOLUTELY OF THE ESSENCE here, NO effort whatsoever to contact her in anyway. Let me repeat that. Make no effort whatsoever to contact her in ANYWAY. This will result in two possible outcomes, both good ones.

One, she will start missing you and, therefore, start making an effort to contact YOU. In this case, it all depends on what you feel and want, if you want this girl only give her one chance, and maintain your hard-to-get attitude, but this time in a more flirtsy manner (simply smiling at her when she sees you goes a long way). However, if she screws up again, it’s time for another more permanent detox session. Which brings me the the second result.

Second, she makes no effort to contact you or she’s screwed up a second time. Well, then the answer is easy, DETOX IS JUSTIFIED. Move on my friend, there are plenty of fish in the sea, so jump out of that fish bowl.

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, in his book titled “The Little Prince”, states, “Love is not looking at each other, it is looking together in the same direction.” In other words, love is teamwork.

The over-rated “can’t-live-with-out-the-other” definition of love is untrue and very harmful. TV, movies, and the other forms of media have brainwashed us  into thinking that this is what we should aim for in life, that is, besides making lots of doe. A common way of thinking is, “With love, nothing else matters”. WRONG! Love isn’t omnipotent. It certainly doesn’t overrule every other aspect of life.

But let’s get to defining love. True love occurs when two people, of similar interests and values (values being the most important) are united by a common goal. The creation of a happy prosperous family is a common goal, but there are plenty of others.

Lovers also tend to confuse sexual attraction with true love. Do not make this mistake. One way to avoid this is by mentally taking away you girl’s beauty, her youth, her money, her fame, and every other superficial quality, until all that’s left is an old and physically ugly person. Then ask yourself The Four Questions:

1. Are you and your girl bonded by a common goal? It has to be a significant goal, now.
2. After you take away every superficial quality from your girl, do you still want to share your life with her?
3. Does you relationship with this person motivate your strengths and make you acquire new strengths? Because, if it motivates you weaknesses and vice versa, you’re on the wrong track.
4. Does this relationship harmonize with the original life goals that you had before the relationship? If it derails you from your dreams and expectations in life, you’re on the wrong track.

If and ONLY if all four answers are yes, are you in love with your girl, and therefore ready to get married.

I think Valentine’s day is over-rated, just like Christmas. Everyone goes nuts about it, and they go off spending all their money to buy something for their special someone just to show them they love them. Now, that’s OK, but shouldn’t that be something you show everyday?

Spontaneity is MUCH more power. Don’t wait for an excuse like an international holiday or her birthday to buy her 101 roses. Do it just because. That’ll be refreshing to her, and I bet it’ll get you laid.