Are awkward silences really that awkward? Kinda makes you think doesn’t it. I guess it all depends on what’s going on in each individuals head. If you’re nervous and afraid of the awkward silence then you will miss out on the opportunity to really connect with the person your interacting with. I would say that it’s sometimes best to shut the hell up and force a period of silence.

This basically is due to the fact that human communication doesn’t only occur at a linguistic level. There’s body language. Body language should be familiar to you. It’s when, without words, you communicate something by portraying it with your body. Good posture, a smile, staring away from someone, frowning, an upside-down smile, all communicate different things.

You’re eyes are especially powerful in this sense. If fact, I dare say that your eyes alone can really talk a whole other language all by their itty bitty selves. Gazing at someones eyes directly communicates whatever it is that you are feeling at the moment. Try it. You will see that this holds true 100% of the time.

Action language is the power to communicate something through your actions. Taking the girl of your dreams on a date clearly communicates your intention to get to know her better. Giving someone a gift tells him/her that you care, or in the case that you screwed up royally, that you’re sorry. Simply writing a note that says “I love you.” or “let’s have fun.”, tells your friend, family member, or significant other something very direct in an indirect fashion.

So the next time you can’t think of something you can say, and you’re confronted with an awkward silence, instead of feeling nervous and, well, awkward, think of something you can do with your body, with your eyes, or something you can act upon.

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, in his book titled “The Little Prince”, states, “Love is not looking at each other, it is looking together in the same direction.” In other words, love is teamwork.

The over-rated “can’t-live-with-out-the-other” definition of love is untrue and very harmful. TV, movies, and the other forms of media have brainwashed us  into thinking that this is what we should aim for in life, that is, besides making lots of doe. A common way of thinking is, “With love, nothing else matters”. WRONG! Love isn’t omnipotent. It certainly doesn’t overrule every other aspect of life.

But let’s get to defining love. True love occurs when two people, of similar interests and values (values being the most important) are united by a common goal. The creation of a happy prosperous family is a common goal, but there are plenty of others.

Lovers also tend to confuse sexual attraction with true love. Do not make this mistake. One way to avoid this is by mentally taking away you girl’s beauty, her youth, her money, her fame, and every other superficial quality, until all that’s left is an old and physically ugly person. Then ask yourself The Four Questions:

1. Are you and your girl bonded by a common goal? It has to be a significant goal, now.
2. After you take away every superficial quality from your girl, do you still want to share your life with her?
3. Does you relationship with this person motivate your strengths and make you acquire new strengths? Because, if it motivates you weaknesses and vice versa, you’re on the wrong track.
4. Does this relationship harmonize with the original life goals that you had before the relationship? If it derails you from your dreams and expectations in life, you’re on the wrong track.

If and ONLY if all four answers are yes, are you in love with your girl, and therefore ready to get married.

I think Valentine’s day is over-rated, just like Christmas. Everyone goes nuts about it, and they go off spending all their money to buy something for their special someone just to show them they love them. Now, that’s OK, but shouldn’t that be something you show everyday?

Spontaneity is MUCH more power. Don’t wait for an excuse like an international holiday or her birthday to buy her 101 roses. Do it just because. That’ll be refreshing to her, and I bet it’ll get you laid.

You’ve all seen this happen. It’s pitch black because the sun has already set, and for some reason or another you decide to light a candle. You hardly spend a few seconds in the porch when you notice a couple of moths circling the flame of the candle. They all seem excited for some reason, while the flame pays no attention, and, in fact, burns some of the moths; sad, but true.

Now, in order to have game, you MUST be the flame, not the moth. In most cases, guys are the moths, and, more often than not, they get burned because of it. Unfortunately, we get so excited when we see a perfect 10, that we forget what’s important, and we loose our heads. We then proceed to start acting, well, stupidly. Remember. Women are humans too.

You’ll all agree with me that whenever you see a HOT BABE, the first thing that comes to mind is “She’s out of my league” or “I have no chance”. And if your actually ignore those thoughts and move past them, thoughts like “I hope she likes me” or “What can I do to impress her?” come to mind. WRONG! Get those looser thoughts out of your head! Seriously!

In the above scenario, the HOT BABE is the flame, and guess what… You’re about the get burned. Instead, change your mental scheme. Switch places. Imagine. What would you do if YOU where the hot babe? I’m not saying act like a girl. The rules of nature still apply: male approaches female. Don’t expect it to be different. What I’m saying is YOU should qualify HER, instead of her qualifying you. YOU should give HER a chance to prove she’s in you’re league, and naturally assume you’re in hers. What’s more, realize that just because she’s beautiful, it doesn’t mean she’s your type. She’s bound to have something that annoys you (lack of confidence, bitchiness, bossiness). So the next time you approach a girl, have these thoughts in mind.

And remember, be the flame, not the moth.

It’s true. You pass most of your adolescence wanting to hide that crooked nose of yours, when in reality your crooked little friend can create sex appeal. Listen, the sooner you accept all your little imperfections the sooner you’ll become a more attractive prospect.
A man that is totally comfortable with who he is and with all his flaws, can communicate the type of allure that is hard to not notice. Girls may not know this, but then again, attraction isn’t a choice. It just is, and nobody can help who they’re turned-on by. Keep that in mind.