Even married people were once strangers. Therefore, without patience and the effort to understand one another, things are likely not to go well. We need patience in order to become happy.
There are many who dream about experiencing happiness without the patience. But that is a dream. And a dream is just that–a dream, a fairy tale. It is to wish for a childish, easy life. This illusion breaks up many marriages. The pursuit of such happiness can only make one miserable.
It is important to make the effort to calmly construct something together. From there, real love develops. Real marriage is when you have been married for twenty-five years and feel an even deeper love than you did when you first met. Love deepens. Love that does not is merely on the level of simple likes and dislikes.

In Japan, the mountain potatoes known as taros are rough and dirty when harvested, but when they are placed in a basin of running water together and rolled against each other, the skin peels away, leaving the potatoes shining clean and ready for cooking. Similarly, the only way for us to hone and polish our character is through our interactions with others.

This is an interesting little tool I came across when trying to figure out how exactly to make people want to be with you, or at least be happy to see you. It’s to literally GET LOST!

That’s the power of unavailability my friend. When people don’t see you, they start wondering where you are, and from there, they start missing you. You go from, they see you everyday, to, not so much. Notice I didn’t say to stop visiting entirely, just to keep it to a bare minimum. Visit only when you feel that if you don’t, the relationship will be inclined towards becoming extinct. That is, visit BEFORE this point.

And if you’re going through Relationship Detox, and you just don’t want to see that person, you’ll be surprised at, well, the surprises that unavailability will throw at you.

Whatever happens, just remember to Enjoy the Ride.

There I go minding my own business. I cool, I’m chillin’, talking PEACEFULLY with my girl, when all of a sudden, my girl’s face starts turning red and she starts yelling at me with no apparent reason. And I’m like, “What in the name did I do to you!? Get of my back!” And I left her in her tantrum.

Than I talked to mom. I asked her for a logical explanation for what had just happened. She told me it had nothing to do with me. She told me it was PMS. Now, I had heard of it before, but it just didn’t occur to me at the time, but I was enlightened by this small peace of info.

I did some research which only managed to make me confused, but this is what I got out of it. Basically, what I understood is that the menstrual cycle last 28 days, 14 out of which, women are ovulating. The first 7 days out of those 14 she will have HIGH hormones, and the other 7 days she will have LOW hormones.

Now, as a man, I understand that we think in numbers. So let me translate that for you. The month has 30 days. 14 out of those days she will be a pain in the neck. That means that 46.6% of the time she will be moody.

So what you have to do is understand that this is a part of the female personality. So don’t get mad. Remember if it weren’t for PMS we wouldn’t be her right now. So enjoy the ride.

Are awkward silences really that awkward? Kinda makes you think doesn’t it. I guess it all depends on what’s going on in each individuals head. If you’re nervous and afraid of the awkward silence then you will miss out on the opportunity to really connect with the person your interacting with. I would say that it’s sometimes best to shut the hell up and force a period of silence.

This basically is due to the fact that human communication doesn’t only occur at a linguistic level. There’s body language. Body language should be familiar to you. It’s when, without words, you communicate something by portraying it with your body. Good posture, a smile, staring away from someone, frowning, an upside-down smile, all communicate different things.

You’re eyes are especially powerful in this sense. If fact, I dare say that your eyes alone can really talk a whole other language all by their itty bitty selves. Gazing at someones eyes directly communicates whatever it is that you are feeling at the moment. Try it. You will see that this holds true 100% of the time.

Action language is the power to communicate something through your actions. Taking the girl of your dreams on a date clearly communicates your intention to get to know her better. Giving someone a gift tells him/her that you care, or in the case that you screwed up royally, that you’re sorry. Simply writing a note that says “I love you.” or “let’s have fun.”, tells your friend, family member, or significant other something very direct in an indirect fashion.

So the next time you can’t think of something you can say, and you’re confronted with an awkward silence, instead of feeling nervous and, well, awkward, think of something you can do with your body, with your eyes, or something you can act upon.

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, in his book titled “The Little Prince”, states, “Love is not looking at each other, it is looking together in the same direction.” In other words, love is teamwork.

The over-rated “can’t-live-with-out-the-other” definition of love is untrue and very harmful. TV, movies, and the other forms of media have brainwashed us  into thinking that this is what we should aim for in life, that is, besides making lots of doe. A common way of thinking is, “With love, nothing else matters”. WRONG! Love isn’t omnipotent. It certainly doesn’t overrule every other aspect of life.

But let’s get to defining love. True love occurs when two people, of similar interests and values (values being the most important) are united by a common goal. The creation of a happy prosperous family is a common goal, but there are plenty of others.

Lovers also tend to confuse sexual attraction with true love. Do not make this mistake. One way to avoid this is by mentally taking away you girl’s beauty, her youth, her money, her fame, and every other superficial quality, until all that’s left is an old and physically ugly person. Then ask yourself The Four Questions:

1. Are you and your girl bonded by a common goal? It has to be a significant goal, now.
2. After you take away every superficial quality from your girl, do you still want to share your life with her?
3. Does you relationship with this person motivate your strengths and make you acquire new strengths? Because, if it motivates you weaknesses and vice versa, you’re on the wrong track.
4. Does this relationship harmonize with the original life goals that you had before the relationship? If it derails you from your dreams and expectations in life, you’re on the wrong track.

If and ONLY if all four answers are yes, are you in love with your girl, and therefore ready to get married.

I think Valentine’s day is over-rated, just like Christmas. Everyone goes nuts about it, and they go off spending all their money to buy something for their special someone just to show them they love them. Now, that’s OK, but shouldn’t that be something you show everyday?

Spontaneity is MUCH more power. Don’t wait for an excuse like an international holiday or her birthday to buy her 101 roses. Do it just because. That’ll be refreshing to her, and I bet it’ll get you laid.

Their will come a time when you fight with someone that you really love. Things that you don’t really mean might leave your mouth and hurt your loved ones. Or vice versa, someone might hurt YOU when you’ve really done nothing wrong. In either case, an apology is always needed. If you decide to stay mad, and not talk to that person, even if you’re not to blaim, the relationship will plummet like a burning plane, and crash catastrophically on the rocks

But, “How do I apologize?”, I hear you say. “I’ve done nothing wrong! Why SHOULD I apologize?!” Well the key factor is not “who started it”. The key factor is “Do I love this person?” And if the answer is yes, you should apologize whether it’s you fault or not.

As for “how to do it”, simply generalize. Simple isn’t it. No need to be specific, as that will remind her/him of what happened and will make her/him mad again. Just say “Sorry for what happened.” This will break the ice and open up doors. Trust me. And pick it up form there.

This is a stage that every boy MUST complete before turning into a man. The Lone Wolf Stage is when you leave your parent’s home and start living on your own. Like the movie “300″.

The lone Spartan boy departs, away from the safety of the walls that surround him. He’s afraid, lonely, cold, and hungry, with nowhere to go but to the vast and desolate horizon. He wonders for a few weeks surviving off the rodents he manages to catch. He knows what he has to do. Yet he knows not how to do it. Even so, he’s brave, and courage floods his heart. He moves quietly towards where he knows the beast is waiting, but the beast is connected to him somehow, as if by destiny, and senses his approach. With a cold composed attitude, the beast stands and glares into his eyes. They circle each other for what seems like several minutes. When suddenly, the beast attacks! The boy, hardened by his time in the wild, is no longer a boy. He is a warrior! He is a WOLF! He braces himself, spear in hand, clutched so tightly he almost brakes it in half, when… silence… nothing but cold hard silence. The beast lay there dead in his tracks.

Alright, back to reality. My point is that every boy needs to go out on his own, and survive by his own means. Before he can really call himself a man. So don’t even dream about forming your own family if you have not become a Lone Wolf.

I know that when you’re a teenager your family members are not the people you want to be hanging out with. No, you wanna be with your friends, having fun, doing naughty things, etc. (ahhhh… good times…)

But when the going gets tough, most of your so-called friends will run for it. Seriously, the only ones that DO remain, are the only ones you can really call your friends. That’s what makes family so important. They’ll always be there for you, and if you feel like you’re not that close to them, then start working on your relationship. Trust me, it’ll be more valuable than anything else in your life.

I know family isn’t always perfect, but if you don’t get along with those closest to you, how can you expect to do so with anyone else?