Well, this has been THE most complicated question I’ve had to answer for myself in the last year. How can you tell if a girl wants you as a friend or wants to be your girlfriend? It’s a good question my friend. Allow me to enlighten you.

When she wants to be your friend, one sure way of knowing it, is that she will tell you about her triumphs and defeats in love and war. She will in essence treat you like a confidante, and let you in on all of her dirty little secrets.

If she wants to be your girlfriend she will adopt a more secretive, more flirtsy sort of attitude towards you. Notice the play on words here. Flirtsy is the key word. If she’s just plain secretive and doesn’t let you in on anything, then she just plain doesn’t want anything to do with you, so move on.

Listen up boys and girls. Learn to value the female friends you manage to get. There are various reasons to do this:

1. They’re your window to the female mind.
2. They’re hot, and therefore raise your value in the eyes of other girls.
3. Who doesn’t like hot female friends. You can’t go wrong
4. Girls are usually better friends then guys, so they’ll be there for you.

I know you’ll be tempted to make them you girlfriends, but trust me, you’ll find much more value in a profound female friendship the on a one-night-stand or casual fling.

In Japan, the mountain potatoes known as taros are rough and dirty when harvested, but when they are placed in a basin of running water together and rolled against each other, the skin peels away, leaving the potatoes shining clean and ready for cooking. Similarly, the only way for us to hone and polish our character is through our interactions with others.

This is an interesting little tool I came across when trying to figure out how exactly to make people want to be with you, or at least be happy to see you. It’s to literally GET LOST!

That’s the power of unavailability my friend. When people don’t see you, they start wondering where you are, and from there, they start missing you. You go from, they see you everyday, to, not so much. Notice I didn’t say to stop visiting entirely, just to keep it to a bare minimum. Visit only when you feel that if you don’t, the relationship will be inclined towards becoming extinct. That is, visit BEFORE this point.

And if you’re going through Relationship Detox, and you just don’t want to see that person, you’ll be surprised at, well, the surprises that unavailability will throw at you.

Whatever happens, just remember to Enjoy the Ride.

There I go minding my own business. I cool, I’m chillin’, talking PEACEFULLY with my girl, when all of a sudden, my girl’s face starts turning red and she starts yelling at me with no apparent reason. And I’m like, “What in the name did I do to you!? Get of my back!” And I left her in her tantrum.

Than I talked to mom. I asked her for a logical explanation for what had just happened. She told me it had nothing to do with me. She told me it was PMS. Now, I had heard of it before, but it just didn’t occur to me at the time, but I was enlightened by this small peace of info.

I did some research which only managed to make me confused, but this is what I got out of it. Basically, what I understood is that the menstrual cycle last 28 days, 14 out of which, women are ovulating. The first 7 days out of those 14 she will have HIGH hormones, and the other 7 days she will have LOW hormones.

Now, as a man, I understand that we think in numbers. So let me translate that for you. The month has 30 days. 14 out of those days she will be a pain in the neck. That means that 46.6% of the time she will be moody.

So what you have to do is understand that this is a part of the female personality. So don’t get mad. Remember if it weren’t for PMS we wouldn’t be her right now. So enjoy the ride.

Are awkward silences really that awkward? Kinda makes you think doesn’t it. I guess it all depends on what’s going on in each individuals head. If you’re nervous and afraid of the awkward silence then you will miss out on the opportunity to really connect with the person your interacting with. I would say that it’s sometimes best to shut the hell up and force a period of silence.

This basically is due to the fact that human communication doesn’t only occur at a linguistic level. There’s body language. Body language should be familiar to you. It’s when, without words, you communicate something by portraying it with your body. Good posture, a smile, staring away from someone, frowning, an upside-down smile, all communicate different things.

You’re eyes are especially powerful in this sense. If fact, I dare say that your eyes alone can really talk a whole other language all by their itty bitty selves. Gazing at someones eyes directly communicates whatever it is that you are feeling at the moment. Try it. You will see that this holds true 100% of the time.

Action language is the power to communicate something through your actions. Taking the girl of your dreams on a date clearly communicates your intention to get to know her better. Giving someone a gift tells him/her that you care, or in the case that you screwed up royally, that you’re sorry. Simply writing a note that says “I love you.” or “let’s have fun.”, tells your friend, family member, or significant other something very direct in an indirect fashion.

So the next time you can’t think of something you can say, and you’re confronted with an awkward silence, instead of feeling nervous and, well, awkward, think of something you can do with your body, with your eyes, or something you can act upon.

Among the things you should never do to your friends is stop seeing them just because you found another group of people you like hanging out with. Good friends are hard to find, so taking care of the ones you have is of absolute essence to maintaining a healthy human psyche. Be sure to cherish your friendships. Otherwise, you’ll find that you have no friends at all.

Getting a phone number from a guy is way easier. The pressure is not there. I mean you don’t wanna hump him so you don’t get unnecessarily nervous. However, all of the other rules of male-female attraction still apply. You’re still the flame, not the moth, but just not as strictly as you would be with a girl.

See guys are a lot more simple. If a man sees something he likes, he goes for it, takes it for his own, and asks questions later. If a girl sees something she likes, she first examines it from a distance. Then, IF she likes what she sees, she smiles and comes closer, just close enough to get a better look at what can possibly be hers. Then after several minutes of close scrutiny, and after she’s decided that the object posses all or most of the qualities she’s looking for she picks it up. She analyzes every nuke and cranny, and thinks to herself “It’s colorful, it’s pretty, not too big, not too small, it fits me just right.” Finally, she takes it for her own.

See the difference? My point is, all you have to do is get to know the dude a little, create one or two connections, and ask for his number. “Hey, we should go out and play pool sometime, what’s your number?” And presto, MUCH easier. Although, when you put it like that, getting a number from a girl should be just as easy, I’ll experiment and get back to you on that.

Their will come a time when you fight with someone that you really love. Things that you don’t really mean might leave your mouth and hurt your loved ones. Or vice versa, someone might hurt YOU when you’ve really done nothing wrong. In either case, an apology is always needed. If you decide to stay mad, and not talk to that person, even if you’re not to blaim, the relationship will plummet like a burning plane, and crash catastrophically on the rocks

But, “How do I apologize?”, I hear you say. “I’ve done nothing wrong! Why SHOULD I apologize?!” Well the key factor is not “who started it”. The key factor is “Do I love this person?” And if the answer is yes, you should apologize whether it’s you fault or not.

As for “how to do it”, simply generalize. Simple isn’t it. No need to be specific, as that will remind her/him of what happened and will make her/him mad again. Just say “Sorry for what happened.” This will break the ice and open up doors. Trust me. And pick it up form there.

I used to think that surrounding myself with female friends was a good idea, and it is. The basic concept behind this is social proof. Girls see you surrounded by beautiful women and this raises your value before their eyes. This is true; no doubt about it. But the question, my friend, is, “Should I ditch my male friends just because my sexy female friends can get me laid?” The answer is NO!

I won’t argue that it’s nice having perfect-10 friends. I mean, they’re perfect 10’s. They’re hot, sexy, and they know it. Some of ‘em are even VERY friendly, meaning they like hugging and cuddling for extended periods of time (*sigh* *smirk* good times…). This, nonetheless, should not make you forget about your male friendships until they wither like an un-watered unloved little plant.

Haven’t you heard of guy’s night out!? THERE’S A REASON FOR ITS EXISTENCE! Girls are great, but they’re SO different from us guys, that if we ONLY socialize with girls, we WILL eventually become a girl… a crying, sensitive, manipulative, multiple-personality, I-don’t-know-what-I-want, woman. And I KNOW we love ‘em for being all those things. But men are simple-minded, and dealing with so much female emotion can and will change your perspective, your true nature, and your true purpose in life.

So spend time with you brothas my man! They’re the only ones that understand the way you work and that share your thoughts and desires. Female friends are awesome (HELL YEAH), but take care of your guys. You’re gonna need ‘em.